I have a friend, Jane Doe, who is using eHarmony to find Mr. Right. It’s not that she’s a loser who can’t get a guy – she’s a working woman who spends enough time on the job that it’s hard to devote quality time to the dating scene. eHarmony is a great way to identify men with potential; kind of the internet generation’s answer to the village matchmaker.
We talked the other night about not knowing if a person was “right” or not. I told her that the comment all single people hate to hear – “You’ll know the right one when you’re with him/her” – has a great deal of truth to it. I suggested she not worry about if a person was The One, but to concentrate on getting to know each other and building a relationship. My point was that walking around with Marriage Glasses can make you miss the obvious rightness of a person you enjoy spending time with – given that all other “musts” are present in the person.
I shared this story with Kelly while we were on a dinner date Saturday night. His take on the situation: